Love is a Hard Thing

Whoever said that love was the greatest thing never had a girlfriend. I believe it’s great to be in love, but it has a whole bunch of problems that could easily be avoided if you weren’t in love.

I try to do everything right for my lady. I’m a great listener, I know when to back off, I have good advice on different issues (at least I think I do), I’m caring, sweet, I remember the flowers, and enjoy the cuddling, but for some reason all these things are never good enough.

I got this “I think things are different between us now” a little bit ago. Ok, what does that mean? She works, I work, our schedules are different so she’s at work other times than me, I make sure I make time to spend with her when I can. I try to be romantic but it’s not cutting it. Something else is up. She claims I’m cheating, not in a direct way, but says “did she call you today?”

See, that’s a relationship killer.

Jealousy.

It leads to distrust, hatred, anger, pain, sadness, sorrow, more pain, heartaches, and why? Cause you have a hunch? Ok, I understand that those hunches may be right sometimes. But you have to know your partner. If you took the time to understand your partner, a lot of those feelings and hunches would dissipate (I bet you anything). But if you’re constantly thinking about what you need to do, what your needs are, what you want, what you need, what you could do to please him/her, if you’re satisfied, blah, blah, yeah you’ll always think “things are different between us now.”

Lesson learned:

If you’re self-centered, you’re never going to be happy with someone else. You demand too much that the only person that can please you or make you happy is you. The problem is that you don’t even know that only you can make you happy. You still keep searching for the other person to make you happy. Until you realize a relationship means working together to be happy together, you won’t be. To put it easy, do you know what is going through the other person’s mind? What external things are happening in their life that is bothering them? If you don’t know (or don’t care), then yeah, things are different…this relationship is YOU, and I’m in it only when you want me to be. (That blows.)