A Step Dad Will Never Be A Real Dad
I have this idea lingering in my mind. A step dad, although will usually try to raise his step children with the dignity of a father, he will always be second place to the real father.
This seems to be true and everyone I’ve talked to about it seems to strengthen my hypothesis. A step father is seldom regarded as a father. Father figure, sure, but a father, not really.
For some reason DNA creates a bond between a human child and his/her biological parents, regardless of who they are.
The theme has been used in a bunch of movies. And the way they end up is a love/hate relationship with the parents…
I can’t think right now, I’m kinda pissed off about the idea that some fathers take for granted their fatherhood privileges by:
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Making a bunch of babies everywhere and living like a bachelor
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Not taking responsibility for making a bunch of babies everywhere (evading child support, not helping the kids, playing with the kid’s minds telling them that he’ll always be there)
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Taking the young kids to Chuck E Cheese (Of course, they’ll think it’s fun and of course they’ll think,”My daddy is the best in the world, he takes me to Chuck E Cheese)
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Thinking that by buying them a bit of clothes, some toys, and out to eat is fulfilling his part as a dad
I’d like to bash a guy who sincerely believes that after having children, he can still live as a bachelor without worrying about anybody else but himself. Then when someone decides to be a part of the mother’s life, the father’s best excuse is:
Well he (referring to the new boyfriend, husband, etc) has money, he can buy them (referring to his children)clothes, toys, and food. I don’t have to do that any more.
Ha.
February 2, 2008 at 10:41 pm
It’s true. Look at my situation. Keep getting hurt but I keep going back! I just really hope it works this time ’cause I can’t take one more dissolution.
How’s it going? you okay?
June 17, 2008 at 11:22 am
I wish there was something I could say….we are thinking of you….
June 30, 2008 at 9:35 am
As a stepdad who loves his stepdaughter as his own, most of us just try to be there for you if and when you need us… we know we can’t replace your DNA but most stepdads are proud to have the kids in our lives. Its my hope that most “DNA” dads understand what a gift kids are!
August 2, 2008 at 8:34 pm
mY NEW HUSBAND HAS BEEN A STEP DAD TO MY 2 KID SINCE THEY WHERE 4 & 7 YEARS OLD. DNA means nothing. My ex is the fun disney land dad every other weekend & has nothing to do with them during the other 12 days each time. There step dad is here when they are sick, home work, helping to teach chores. He is the father I wanted for my kids before they where born. DNA is just another word for bi-logical parent only.
If something happenes to me my kids want to be raised by their step dad.
Don’t get me wrong they love their real dad but they know when it comes down to really being cared for their step dad is much better. They are 8 & 11 now.
To all you bi-logical dads, like the one guy said remember your kids still come first……